The inherent characteristics of a child, as Plato described in his book The State in 400 BC, remain unchanged. A child is more acutely aware of and observes his environment and the events happening around him more deeply than adults. Not only do they observe, but they are also influenced by these observations. What a child learns in their first ten or twelve years serves as guidance throughout their life.
In the modern era, many parents focus on providing their children with higher education. While a good education is indeed beneficial for creating a better society, are higher education institutions and foreign curricula sufficient for the mental development of our children? Have we ever considered whether a child can learn better from a thick book or a story heard in the comforting arms of their parents? The goal is not just to make them read but to impart lessons that last a lifetime.
Children learn primarily from what they see. If they observe someone laughing at something bad, they might start to think it is good. Conversely, they might disregard a good thing if it is presented poorly.
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An incident I experienced two days ago illustrates this point. Two children were engrossed in playing games on their mobiles, and their mother expressed concern about their weak academic performance. Upon investigating, I discovered that the mother partly blamed incompetent teachers and the children's lack of interest in studies. Additionally, her health had deteriorated, preventing her from giving them the attention they needed, even though she had hired a home tutor. The family lived separately, not in a joint family setup. When I sat with the children, I realized they were much wiser than me and considered themselves the wisest in the house.
I engaged them in a conversation about their games, and they were surprised when I said I didn't play games. They admitted they couldn't break the habit. When I asked about their favorite subject, it was disheartening to hear them use unethical words for their studies and teachers, words that shouldn't be used even for a wicked person. They were angry at their teacher for beating them and vowed never to respect her again.
This raises the question: who is at fault in such a situation? The parents, teachers, or children?
I believe children are a reflection of their parents and the environment in which they grow up. Parents must ensure their children are never out of sight. Devote a portion of your daily time to your children. Ask about their routine, listen to their problems, and find the best solutions. Guide them with love and reprimand them gently to instill moral values.
Teachers, too, must educate children with love and compassion. The purpose of education is not to create machines but to nurture human beings who understand the language of ethics, kindness, and love. This is achievable only when teachers embody these values themselves.
Older siblings also play a role. They should treat their younger siblings with love and help compensate for any shortcomings in their upbringing.
As for children, they are like clay, ready to be molded. They will take shape based on the direction you guide them.
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