The Silence of the Wounded: When Love Becomes a Cage

Conflicts among spouses have truly negative impacts on the next generation. Sometimes, even when the children grow up, they can’t surpass those nightmares, no matter how much they try. They even blame their parents for bringing them into this world. Some suffer in silence.

The day before yesterday, I had an encounter at the hospital with a girl. Considering her age, I didn’t realize she was married. She appeared so pale, fragile, and, most importantly, utterly silent. Women are usually described as chatterboxes because they love to talk. Personally, it is very difficult for me to start a conversation with a stranger, but sometimes, when I see something unusual, I don’t know what compels me to ask what’s happening to that person.

She was sitting behind me, so I mustered up all my courage and asked her, “Why are you so silent? Your color is also quite pale. What’s wrong with you?”

I realized she hesitated to say anything—maybe because I was a stranger. At first, she just said she had some minor issues. I offered her some advice. She became more at ease and said, “Life is too strange. We can’t escape certain things.”

I asked, “What can’t we escape?”

She replied, “When we get married to a person, no matter what he does to us, we are compelled to live with him, even if he hands over our belongings and says, ‘You can go to your father’s home. All the ways are wide open for you.’”

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I asked her why women tolerate such savagery, although I knew the answer too well. I was expecting something different, but she said, “I love my husband and my two children.”

I sighed, and every cell of my being screamed! Because I saw a figure in her… and I felt for her.

She added that her husband has inborn anger issues. That’s why he can’t control his temper.

Only to lessen the weight of her words, I humorously said, “Men in extreme fury usually throw stuff from the room.”

The response I got left me in unforgettable shock:

“My husband doesn’t throw stuff. Instead, he throws me from the room.”

I asked, “Does it affect your children?”

She said, “Whenever my husband is angry, my children are very scared. Their color turns pale, and they don’t say anything. Sometimes they start crying.”

She added that they also get beaten by their father.

I asked, “Don’t his family say anything to him?”

She replied, “His family is very good, and they know he has anger issues.”

However, the thing that surprised me and still consumes me is that she said when she is pregnant, her husband controls his anger. That’s the only time he can manage it to avoid major harm.

It makes me think: If a person can control his anger in one instance, why can’t he control it in others? It’s crystal clear he can control it every time, but the tragedy is—he doesn’t want to.

To all the men who have anger issues and refuse to control them:

How do you muster such courage to batter a human who has left everything just to live with you?
How dare you?
Doesn’t your conscience face you when you raise your hand against your wife?

Ah! How people have lost the very sense of humanity.

Conflicts among spouses have truly negative impacts on the next generation. Sometimes, even when the children grow up, they can’t surpass those nightmares, no matter how much they try. They even blame their parents for bringing them into this world. Some suffer in silence.

I know we are human. We all have issues. But that doesn’t mean we should destroy other people’s lives. Research has proven that men can control their anger. And the only constant in this world is “Change.” One can change if they truly want to. If you don’t love your spouse and children, who else will come and give them love?

Do you know what a woman is?

She is the symbol of love.
She is the language of compassion.
She is the peace of mind.
She is an ocean of devotion.
She is an infinite river of surprises.
She is a mosque you are blessed to worship in.
She is the form of energy.
She is a kind of meditation.

But only as long as she is happy.

This beautiful creature, the epitome of God’s creation, can turn into something terrifying when she accepts that she is done with everything. Then, she doesn’t care what is happening or what will happen. She will not care even if the world turns upside down. After passing through the relentless storm of fate—or whatever you call it—she doesn’t meet her demise; rather, she turns into something strange.

Quite strange.
Unfathomable, too.

In conclusion, to all the men who have anger issues or whatever it may be—please be humble, and be human!