We often say that happiness and sorrow come from God, yet when an accident occurs, we are quick to place the blame on a human being.

Unfortunately, in our society, the easiest target for such blame often becomes a newly arrived bride. A girl who steps into her new home with hopes, dreams, and prayers is sometimes forced to hear words that leave a lasting impact on her entire life.

We must ask ourselves: can a girl who is just beginning a new chapter of her life really be responsible for someone else’s fate?

This is not just hearsay, but an incident I witnessed with my own eyes.

A few days ago, I was traveling to Charsadda. On the motorway, a convoy of wedding vehicles was driving a short distance ahead of us. Their speed was unusually high, and young men were driving recklessly. There was noise, laughter, and a sense of carelessness, as if no one was aware of any potential danger.

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At that moment, a thought crossed my mind that such behavior could lead to a serious accident—but I did not realize that this fear would turn into reality within moments.

When we reached near Rajjar, the sight was horrifying. The same wedding vehicles had met with an accident. There was chaos everywhere, people were injured, and the air was filled with fear. We passed by, but the scene left a heavy weight on my heart.

Later that night, when I saw the news about the incident, I learned that several people had been injured and the groom’s mother had passed away. This made the situation even more heartbreaking.

During this time, a relative commented: “The bride hasn’t even entered the house yet, and she has already taken her mother-in-law’s life—she is so unfortunate.”

Hearing this, I fell silent, but one question kept echoing in my mind: what was the girl’s fault?

I began to think about what that bride must be going through. The day she had waited for all her life had turned into a tragedy. On one hand, she is dealing with the shock of the incident, and on the other, she has to endure words that can break her from within.

If a stranger can so easily label her as “unlucky,” what might her own family be thinking? Has anyone tried to understand her emotions?

The truth is, the real cause of this accident was speeding and irresponsible driving, yet the blame was placed on an innocent bride.

On occasions of joy, we often forget caution, and a moment of negligence can lead to irreversible loss.

The tragedy of our society is that instead of accepting reality, we find it easier to assign blame—and the target is often a girl who is already under the pressure of starting a new life. Calling her “unlucky” is not only unjust but also a form of psychological harm that leaves lasting scars.

Just think—how must that girl feel? Will she ever be able to overcome this sense of guilt?

The reality is that accidents are the result of our own mistakes, not the presence of any one individual. Life and death are in God’s control, and blaming an innocent person is not only illogical but also inhumane.

The question remains: will we change our mindset, or will we continue, as always, to hold the innocent responsible?

Note: This piece reflects the author’s personal opinion and does not necessarily represent the views of the organization.